I read the topic for today’s Five Minute Friday then turned toward my children as they finished the happy ending end of a movie. I was thinking of writing about Christmas or of the feeling good family time.
Then I heard our adopted daughter tell her sister, “I want China Mama. I don’t want to stay here anymore. I miss sister.”
That was it.
She went back to laughing and playing and watching the silly ending of Ice Age: Collision Coarse while a collision moved my heart.
My hearts breaks for her. Of course, she misses her foster family. At times she must long for all that she lost–all that is familiar and feels normal in life. Those longings aren’t verbalized often, but her NOW is homesickness. Her language has grown so quickly, but she still is learning to put her feelings into words.
It’s so hard to decide how much to share. What is too personal to share? Am I sharing for myself or for other adoptive parents who need to know this is normal.
I tried to validate her feelings. Before bed, I reminded her it is okay to miss her China family and to be sad sometimes.
I want her to remember that though we are her forever family, she still has the right to love and miss her foster family in China.
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